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Trans Guys and Cervical Health Care

I know this can be an uncomfortable topic for lots of transguys, however health care is part of life. I’m not saying you have to participate in regular health care visits, that is up to you.  That said, I do think that taking care of ones body is important. It can impact how you feel, how you age (sorry…but we all do age) and it may make a difference in whether a health care provide will prescribe HRT or do surgery, if you desire any of these.

If you’re interested in learning more about cervical health care, please see the link below. The videos they have are quite helpful.


Trans Cervical Health Primer


Reflections on Trans Narratives

By Rob, aka ThePhntm

Last week someone posted a link to a post at Everyday Feminism online Magazine titled “These 10 ‘Acceptable’ Trans Narratives Are Actually Holding Us Back.”

Over the years I’ve heard and engaged in a lot of conversations abuot Trans Narratives so when I saw that titled I had some expectation of what I’d find. What I found was far more interesting. I was expecting the typical sort of stuff that I’ve seen for … years… (like the 20+ yrs I’ve identified as trans). Some of the topics are there, but come at from a different angle. Some of it … I wasn’t sure I was clear what they were saying in the end… (that was, I think, more about the writing and some lack of clarity on where the author wanted to take this) I’ll comment on a two of the points in there. (When I have time I wanted to address a third.)

(7) This one was the “no transition regrets” one.
So going back my 20+ years, there has always been that pressure to say “I have no regrets.” As the article mentions, not talking about regrets we have allows the voices like the one mentioned in the article to be the loudest ones. There was a discussion posted in another grip where someone asked about regrets. Most people replied with “oh I have none!” or “I wouldn’t change a thing!” Only a few expressed some. Now I don’t want to imply the ‘i have none’ replies weren’t genuine, but I do think that those who do have some feel it is not okay to express them.

In writing this, perhaps one thing is the use of the word regret as it implies that a person wishes they hadn’t transitioned. Looking the definition of regret up, one I found (similar to others): “feel sad, repentant, or disappointed over something that has happened or been done, especially a loss or missed opportunity.”

Of course I feel loss and sadness related to my transition/coming out as trans. But that doesn’t mean I would have chosen not to transition. Had I not, I would simply have experienced a different sort of regret. And I also feel happiness and satisfaction. As I like to say… It’s all about choices. We should have conversations about both the things we are happy about as well as the feelings of loss as much as we do our feelings of happiness and satisfaction and around the good of transition/coming out as trans.

(9) The medical intervention one.
There is a lot of pressure for this one, but internal and external. When I came out as trans in 1993. I felt that. Being someone who wants to make sure I am doing something because *I* wanted to versus just because everyone else was doing it, I chose to wait to start T (until 1998). Then again for chest surgery (2006— although a lot of that was about $$. I didn’t want to put myself into debt to do so.) Personally I never understood why anyone cares what choices others make around what they do per medical intervention. So back to pressure. The trans-community at large pushed the narrative “well… transition starts when you start medical intervention.” The trans-guy community back in the 90s started the conversation of “nope… starts when I say it does…” and it doesn’t have to be tied to medical intervention. This is, at least, one I don’t hear much anymore. (Short story: I was on a listserv in the 90s and got into a huge flame war with a transwoman who said that if someone didn’t choose to medically transition they had no business IDing as trans. The community def privileged medical transition back then, and I think still does.)

What I do still hear a lot of is the “I’m being left behind! Everyone else is moving faster than me!” IMHO, that is all about the narrative that privileges medical transition.


LateishaGreenThe New York State Court of Appeals, after hearing oral arguments in the case on October 15th, has finally issued its written opinion overturning (in part) the lower courts ruling which had dismissed the manslaughter as a hate crime conviction of convicted killer Dwight DeLee. The high court decided that rather than dismissing the conviction, DeLee could be re-charged with manslaughter as a hate crime and be re-tried in Onondaga County. Should he be convicted again as is highly likely, he will finally be put back in jail to serve the long sentence he so richly deserves (20 years).

Our group organized a rally on the steps of the court house in Albany last month and, with the assistance of the Pride Agenda and GLAAD, we were able to make sure that the court room was filled with members of the Green family and their supporters. Groups from Rochester, Long Island and Albany assisted all the Syracuse folks in witnessing the case and being sure that the justices were aware that their decision would not escape the notice of the LGBT community.

We can’t know for sure what effect our presence had on the court’s decision but we do know that it is an extraordinary decision which completely changed the law as it is applied to similar cases. I have to believe that the outrage our community showed over the injustice inflicted on the Green family and the court’s decision to reverse long standing precedent are not a coincidence.

This case shows that if trans people are willing to be out front, to organize themselves and to fight back, that they can make a difference in their own lives and in the lives of their brothers and sisters.

Changing the gender marker your New York State birth certificate

In June 2014, New York State revised the requirements for changing the gender marker on a NYS birth certificate. (See:  I have the documents you need to get this process started including an Instruction sheet on how to change your birth certificate, an application for correction of your birth certificate and a fill in the blanks Affidavit of Gender Error which you will need to get notarized, something you can do at any bank.

Application for Correction of Certificate of Birth
How to Change Your Birth Certificate in New York State – New Policy
Notarized Affidavit of Gender Error






OCTOBER 15, 2014


The New York State Court of Appeals has finally scheduled oral argument in the Green Case, it will take place on October 15th AT 2:00 PM.

The Court of Appeals is located at 20 Eagle Street, Albany NY 12207. Seating is available in the public section of the courtroom on a first-come, first-seated basis. The public section accommodates approximately 60 people. The first case will be argued beginning at 2:00 pm, visitors must arrive early enough so as to be able to pass through the Court’s security screening area and be seated prior to 1:45pm.

Videos of oral argument are available from the court in DVD form for a fee of $75.

Directions to the courthouse can be found here:


Lateisha Green Images


Tish Green looking fab.


Roxanne Green Albert Cannon

Tish’s family, Roxanne Green, Albert Cannon and Mark Cannon who was also injured in the attack.


Dwight DeLee

Dwight DeLee, transphobic convicted killer, currently a free man.




LaTeisha’s family.



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Roxanne and Albert at a press conference in August of 2013 reacting to the release of Dwight DeLee.


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LaTeisha Green, 22 year old transwoman murdered in November of 2008


Buffalo Pride!


TGA Pride Tour 2014 kicked off this past Sunday with our first Pride march of the season in sunny, sunny Buffalo!

We made it to Buffalo with the float intact though we almost lost the re-engineered church pew now known as the “Bench of Broken Dreams”, when we hit a bumpy patch on the thruway somewhere between Rochester and Batavia.  The bench, before painting, looked a little like this:

Old PewWe had dreams of giving the pew new life as a joyous piece of “float furniture” we hoped would look something like this:

cool looking pew

Or like

another cool pewBut what we ended up with was this:

our Pew

A bench with a bad case of “psychedelic measles”

Apart from the pew problem, we made it to Buffalo safe and sound and after some not so hilarious GPS directed errors, we eventually found the staging area at the museum on Elmwood Avenue about 30 minutes behind schedule. Waiting for us at the staging area was a very relieved squadron of trans-folk from Spectrum led by Michelle Wolf. They brought a ton of decorations and banners and whatnot and were beginning to wonder if they were going to have anything to decorate.

A lot of our prep time was spent following directions from officials trying to sort out who was supposed to be where. Not every driver there was as professionally competent at backing up a truck with an attached trailer as was our fearless truckers, Brooke B. and the irrepressible TJ.

The Float is ready to go!

The Float is ready to go!

With all the help we had from the Spectrum pit crew and some Rochester folks along with our contingent from the ‘Cuse, we were able to finish the float prep with time to spare. There were only two snags. The majority of the Rochester crew from GVGV and T*AGR were reported missing in action, lost somewhere between Rochester and Elmwood Avenue.

Leslie on the float

Leslie in Action!

Leslie Larrabee, my good friend and grandmother to the entire trans community in Syracuse, attended her first pride parade. With cane in hand and her pacemaker fully charged, she made the trip with us all the way to Buffalo, endured a long day in the sun waving to her legions of fans along the parade route and then braved the Buffalo Metro system to get to the canal side party where she survived the throngs and rampaging fabulousness. It was a bit touch and go when her fans rushed the float and nearly high-fived her to death.

Pam, Anita, Rob and Dylan behind the float

L-R: Pam, Anita, Rob, Dylan and Brooke

Our “Roadies” making sure nothing and nobody  fell off the float (L-R Pam, Anita, Rob, Dylan and Brooke).

It was a beautiful day for a parade and I can’t think of a better group of people to enjoy it with than our friends in Rochester and Buffalo. When we work together, there is NOTHING we can’t do, except perhaps to remember the bubble juice….

For those of you who missed it, don’t worry, there are pride marches in Rochester, Erie and Syracuse (and maybe Oswego) in addition to the Peurto Rican Parade and a Rally in Nassau County being staged by our friends in the Long Island Transgender Advocacy Coalition. It’s not too late to go to a pride march, festival, parade or rally and hang out with your TG friends and allies from one end of I-90 to the other.

Green Case Update – May 2014

New York State’s highest court has agreed to look at an appeal of a lower court ruling that freed a Syracuse man convicted of the state’s first hate crime. The briefs have been filed and we are currently awaiting scheduling of oral argument before the New York State Court of Appeals.

Meanwhile, Dwight DeLee, the man who murdered Lateisha Green was recently arrested and charged with domestic violence. The one charge not dismissed in the Green case was a fire arms charge against DeLee. When his successful appeal led to his release, he was put on probation for the still standing fire arms conviction. Potentially, the domestic violence charge could have been found to be a probation violation resulting in DeLee going back to jail.

However, at the hearing conducted on the probation violation, DeLee was unable to produce a witness, his girlfriend, to testify on his behalf because the court officers could no find her anywhere in the courthouse though she had been seen waiting in the lobby. She claims to have stepped out for a cigarette momentarily. Judge Brunetti found that the officers violated DeLee’s constitutional rights in failing to find the missing witness and accordingly, he dismissed the probation violation charge insuring that DeLee remains a free man while we wait for the appeal of the Green case to finally be decided by the Court of Appeals.